Social anxiety: Is it okay to put the blame on our parents?

Now that I've had enough time to think things over(21 years in fact) I'm starting to think that my upbringing made me more "high anxiety" My mother a stay at home mom(until my father died eight years ago) has been the worst influence on me. She's cold, unloving, nagging, snappy(has loud outbursts). She has been that way for as long as I can remember. She didn't "change" overnight after my father's passing. My father(miss you so much) was the total opposite. He was warm, showed that he loved us everyday, still knew how to set boundaries and be strict when he needed to be.



Mother yells, screams at us. Nothing we ever do is good enough for her, it seems. I think that she takes a lot of frustration with her own life on us. She used to complain at my father too(he was gone way too soon, and I'm sure that she feels regret dumb b*t&h) but wouldn't that give her even more reason to stop doing it to us? I can't even remember the last time we had a conversation. She spends hours talking to her friends over the phone(who are annoying as can possibly be), online dating and shuts herself in her bedroom. She has her priorities wrong. If only she showed as much attention to her kids, as she shows to her "friends" I feel unwanted everyday.



Can't wait to get out of here after I finish college :(

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