I always come across as stiff and no-fun.
It's ironic because when I'm actually comfortable with people I'm actually very fun and love messing around and being silly etc. but I have big trouble being that person around people I don't know.
It's so frustrating and I get written off all the time as boring / stiff. Often people literally say to me how surprised they are that I'm so warm / fun / etc. when they actually get to know me, girls especially.
it's like I don't feel accepted by the world, and that makes me not get accepted by the world. a self-fulfilling prophecy
When I try to do it and let my guard down I tend to say stuff that is completely inappropriate or just plain weird, so seem like a weirdo or a stiff guy ... I wish I could work out how to not be that
It's ironic because when I'm actually comfortable with people I'm actually very fun and love messing around and being silly etc. but I have big trouble being that person around people I don't know.
It's so frustrating and I get written off all the time as boring / stiff. Often people literally say to me how surprised they are that I'm so warm / fun / etc. when they actually get to know me, girls especially.
it's like I don't feel accepted by the world, and that makes me not get accepted by the world. a self-fulfilling prophecy
When I try to do it and let my guard down I tend to say stuff that is completely inappropriate or just plain weird, so seem like a weirdo or a stiff guy ... I wish I could work out how to not be that
via Social Anxiety Forum http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f35/so-sick-of-being-the-guy-who-is-no-fun-247626/
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