At least for me, it worked for me and might not work for other but anyway here goes.
As you all know that socially anxious individual usually have higher empathy than other, causing them to care too much about others opinion and criticism. They also always put other before them because they are afraid and lack of confidence.
What I tried to do last year when I have social anxiety back in the middle of 2011 is find the root of anxiety and fixed it, mine is appearance related. During 2012 I still have minimum level of anxiety and as terrible as this might sounds, I start making fun of certain kind of people (i start first making fun of people on the internet and slowly move on to real life) to reduce my empathy as it make myself care less about others opinion and rejection and criticism and then boom, I go on new year 2013 totally no anxiety, able to do what I want without caring too much about others criticism.
After that I managed to lower my empathy just enough to not be affected by criticism and managed to enjoy life more, though i still have a little depression ( I was extremely suicidal last year).
What I'm trying to implicate is you find the root of your anxiety and fix it so you can accept yourself. Reduce your empathy to a normal level, not too excessively and just enough to maintain your humanity but don't obsessively care about pleasing others and then you're anxiety free!
As you all know that socially anxious individual usually have higher empathy than other, causing them to care too much about others opinion and criticism. They also always put other before them because they are afraid and lack of confidence.
What I tried to do last year when I have social anxiety back in the middle of 2011 is find the root of anxiety and fixed it, mine is appearance related. During 2012 I still have minimum level of anxiety and as terrible as this might sounds, I start making fun of certain kind of people (i start first making fun of people on the internet and slowly move on to real life) to reduce my empathy as it make myself care less about others opinion and rejection and criticism and then boom, I go on new year 2013 totally no anxiety, able to do what I want without caring too much about others criticism.
After that I managed to lower my empathy just enough to not be affected by criticism and managed to enjoy life more, though i still have a little depression ( I was extremely suicidal last year).
What I'm trying to implicate is you find the root of your anxiety and fix it so you can accept yourself. Reduce your empathy to a normal level, not too excessively and just enough to maintain your humanity but don't obsessively care about pleasing others and then you're anxiety free!
via Social Anxiety Forum http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/this-is-how-you-can-cure-your-social-anxiety-247618/
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