Ok,
The last year I've made some pretty damn good achievements and triumphs over my social issues. I've made more progress than I've made in years. But, it seems with every triumph and achievement, I get overwhelmed by negative thoughts.
An example: Asked a woman out, she said yes, my thought process immediately turns to "Why did she say yes?", "What does she see in me?"
Now, I'm currently dating my second woman ever, and she seems to be perfect for me, we both have had our past issues with depression, insecurities, low-self esteem. We really connect, have things in common, love affection, etc, etc. We really open up to each other about our struggles we've been facing or have faced, and it's immediately apparent that she couldn't give two hoots about me being friendless, a virgin, overweight, she just likes me as I am. She messages me all the time, goes on about how I'm perfect, special, and how she dreams about me at night(She really does, and some of the stuff that happens is pretty freaking funny and bizarre, lol), the way she acts it's like she feels priviledged to be with me, not the other way around, so yeah, seems perfect, right?
But, no.... My mind springs into action, about how I'm ugly/fat, or that I don't deserve this, not worthy of this, that it won't work out, that this or that will go wrong, that the issues of mine that she accepts will still drive her away regardless, and the list goes on.
I'm facing a losing battle with my negative thoughts, and it's certainly the main thing keeping me back. I'm sure most people here, have made a list of things in the past, things that if you could achieve them, or if you were presented the opportunity of achieving them, your mind would suddenly be in a happy place, but damn, negative thoughts don't let-up.
My date said she'd kick me in the nuts the next time I start worrying about things, I guess that is some ah.. positive reinforcement?
The last year I've made some pretty damn good achievements and triumphs over my social issues. I've made more progress than I've made in years. But, it seems with every triumph and achievement, I get overwhelmed by negative thoughts.
An example: Asked a woman out, she said yes, my thought process immediately turns to "Why did she say yes?", "What does she see in me?"
Now, I'm currently dating my second woman ever, and she seems to be perfect for me, we both have had our past issues with depression, insecurities, low-self esteem. We really connect, have things in common, love affection, etc, etc. We really open up to each other about our struggles we've been facing or have faced, and it's immediately apparent that she couldn't give two hoots about me being friendless, a virgin, overweight, she just likes me as I am. She messages me all the time, goes on about how I'm perfect, special, and how she dreams about me at night(She really does, and some of the stuff that happens is pretty freaking funny and bizarre, lol), the way she acts it's like she feels priviledged to be with me, not the other way around, so yeah, seems perfect, right?
But, no.... My mind springs into action, about how I'm ugly/fat, or that I don't deserve this, not worthy of this, that it won't work out, that this or that will go wrong, that the issues of mine that she accepts will still drive her away regardless, and the list goes on.
I'm facing a losing battle with my negative thoughts, and it's certainly the main thing keeping me back. I'm sure most people here, have made a list of things in the past, things that if you could achieve them, or if you were presented the opportunity of achieving them, your mind would suddenly be in a happy place, but damn, negative thoughts don't let-up.
My date said she'd kick me in the nuts the next time I start worrying about things, I guess that is some ah.. positive reinforcement?
via Social Anxiety Forum http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f35/stuck-in-negative-thought-land-413113/
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