Ok, this will be REAAALY long, but I think a lot of you can help me and/or have similar problems, so I appreciate it if you read and respond. A bit about myself, I'm a 17 year old guy, who used to suffer from social anxiety. It's my second year in my current school, and last year was basically hell, no friends, depression, suicidal thoughts and confidence problems, however, this year, things started getting a lot better, I feel more than happy about my looks, I have some fairly good friends and, if not cured, my social anxiety has gotten a lot better. However, one fairly random day, a new girl joined my school (happens a lot here). She was very beautiful, she seemed very nice (as opposed to the majority of girls in my school, who spend all their weekends getting drunk and making out with strangers) and I instantly felt attracted to her and I eventually developed a crush on her.
However, I soon found out she was VERY shy. To this day, she has no friends in our school, she spends most of her time alone in the library and she even skips some lessons or assemblies because of her shyness. Due to how unapproachable and reserved she came off as, it took me forever to actually talk to her, but I eventually did.
She is always very nice, whenever I ask her something about herself, she gives me long answers and details I never asked for and she's constantly smiling (even giggling) when I talk to her. I can honestly say I don't find anything about her that I explicitly don't like and even her shyness/awkwardness doesn't bother me, since I know how it feels. However, she never takes the initiative to talk to me herself, if I ask her something, she rarely asks me anything back after answering. If I set next to her and don't talk, she doesn't try to initiate conversation herself. In fact, on two occasions, I delibrately didn't sit next to her and she glanced at me for maybe one second and then kept reading her book, not noticing me at all.
So basically, I definitely feel some positive vibes from her, but, since she doesn't really do anything herself, I can't tell if it's because she is attracted to me, likes me as a friend or is simply being polite. There is still anxiety in me, and I don't want to creep her out by sitting next to her and desperately trying to get her to talk every time I'm at the library. Could it be that I'm seeing her shyness as being uninterested. Or could it be I'm reading too much into her being nice and interpreting it as attraction.
PLEASE help, even if I can't date her, I'd still like to be her friend, but the way things are going now, I'm not sure if even that's possible.
Thanks for your time!
However, I soon found out she was VERY shy. To this day, she has no friends in our school, she spends most of her time alone in the library and she even skips some lessons or assemblies because of her shyness. Due to how unapproachable and reserved she came off as, it took me forever to actually talk to her, but I eventually did.
She is always very nice, whenever I ask her something about herself, she gives me long answers and details I never asked for and she's constantly smiling (even giggling) when I talk to her. I can honestly say I don't find anything about her that I explicitly don't like and even her shyness/awkwardness doesn't bother me, since I know how it feels. However, she never takes the initiative to talk to me herself, if I ask her something, she rarely asks me anything back after answering. If I set next to her and don't talk, she doesn't try to initiate conversation herself. In fact, on two occasions, I delibrately didn't sit next to her and she glanced at me for maybe one second and then kept reading her book, not noticing me at all.
So basically, I definitely feel some positive vibes from her, but, since she doesn't really do anything herself, I can't tell if it's because she is attracted to me, likes me as a friend or is simply being polite. There is still anxiety in me, and I don't want to creep her out by sitting next to her and desperately trying to get her to talk every time I'm at the library. Could it be that I'm seeing her shyness as being uninterested. Or could it be I'm reading too much into her being nice and interpreting it as attraction.
PLEASE help, even if I can't date her, I'd still like to be her friend, but the way things are going now, I'm not sure if even that's possible.
Thanks for your time!
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